I am not sure how much three-month old babies understand, but like all moms, I think my baby is super smart. Yeah, let me tell you why I think so:
- After my first day of work, baby boy protested my absence by crying. Yes, crying in my hands and then stopping once in the arms of his grandmother. And he continued to look at me and cry in a complaining tone ‘How did you leave me and go? How am I supposed to know when you will come back?!” And so on. It continued for five minutes (which is very long when a baby is crying), and then I scooped him up, held him close and whispered in his ears till he calmed down. Luckily for me, he soon forgot all about it and started giving his toothless smiles.
Next day : He knows that I am all dressed up and will go to office after feeding him. So while he is nursing, he tightly clutches my kurta with his little fingers, and starts wailing as soon as I position him for burping. My otherwise cooperative boy, is throwing tantrums now. I start feeding him again and he just wants to suckle, while not hungry. To stop me from going to work. I go, nevertheless, but with a delay.
Everyday now, once I dress up and get ready to go to work and then when I start nursing him, he cries. He may have associated my deodorant smell to me going to office. It feels surreal, but that’s the only nursing time when he is crying. It does break my heart and I took a leave one day, but he will have to get used to it. So the next day, I braced myself and went to work.
He is a man of discipline, my little boy. Exactly at 9.30 at night, he gets cranky. Only till the time that we take him to his bedroom. Then I start the daily nightly ritual of some massage, changing his clothes etc and he enjoys it. But he has to be taken to the bedroom at 9.30 or else he cries as if I haven’t fed him in ages. He has a set routine and detects any change in it. And detests it. I won’t be surprised if he soon starts making baby to-do lists in little planners with a tiny pen. (How incredibly proud that would make me of him, don’t even ask.)
No, but seriously, baby boy Ar. has definitely noticed that I disappear for most part of the day. He may not know what to make of it, and so he gets cranky. Even when he is extremely fond of his ajji. And my mom thinks he has also lost some weight. But you know she is an advocate of “baby-needs-mom-a-lot-and-then-some-more” and so she may be over-reacting. But baby boy is crankier than before. I admit that.
Strangely, when I was growing up, I was convinced that I would be a stay at home mum for at least first 5 years when my kid(s) is small. I have no idea what that notion was based on, but as time flew by and I actually got married and had a kid, the need to work and have a life beyond home and the baby has become immense. I am sure Ar. will soon get used to it, we will find our new normal, but for now, we have some separation anxiety.
Sometimes when my mom and mom-in-law say that he is very fond of his mother, I think they are saying it to make me feel better. Or perhaps to encourage me to form a closer bond between me and the baby. But may be what they are saying is true. And he does recognise and prefer his mother over the others. It’s a double-edged sword though. How guilty it makes me feel to goto the market or even to go for an exercise walk after already being out of the house most day for work. But certain things need to be done. This is life.
But one thing is for sure. When I am at home, I am at the mercy of his smiles, gurgles and coos.
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For a long time I wanted to make these Australian finger cakes called Lamingtons. They are basically cubes of yellow cake dipped in chocolate frosting and coated with coconut. When I saw this recipe of HomeBakersGuild, I knew I had to make them. I am very fond of fresh coconut and hence used fresh coconut to coat my lamingtons. It made the cake very soft and juicy, if I may say so. And the pastel color looks super cute.
What you will need :
For the simple cake :
- 2 cups all-purpose flour / maida
- 1 tablespoon baking powder
- 1/2 cup butter
- 1 and 1/4 cup caster sugar
- 1 cup milk
- 1 and 1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract
- 3 eggs
For white chocolate icing and decoration:
- 170 gm white chocolate, chopped
- 3 tablespoon butter
- 1/2 cup milk
- 1 and 1/2 cup icing sugar
- few drops of food color
- 3 grated fresh coconut
What to do:
- Preheat oven to 180C. Line a 20 cm cake pan with parchment paper.
- Sift flour and baking powder and keep it ready.
- In another bowl, beat butter and sugar till light and fluffy with a hand blender.
- Add the eggs, one at a time and incorporate.
- Add milk and vanilla extract and blend well.
- Now fold in the flour and baking powder mixture, one cup at a time.
- Pour in prepared pan and bake for 30-40 minutes, till a skewer inserted in the centre comes out clean.
- Let it cool, then trim off the browned edges and cut the cake into squares.
- Make the chocolate icing by heating chopped chocolate, butter, milk in saucepan till they melt.
- Take it off the heat and icing sugar.
- Add food color as desired.
- Roll the cake cubes in the chocolate, one at a time and then in desiccated coconut. Sprinkle with some strawberry jam for decoration.
- The browned part of the cake tastes extremely delicious, eat it up straight away.
- The icing can get a bit sticky while rolling the cake. You can even hold it with a fork and pour the icing over it.
- If you roll it in dry desiccated coconut , the cubes will be drier and easier to handle. But I prefer the crunch of fresh coconut.